tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post4200650581466269453..comments2023-09-07T04:43:10.746-04:00Comments on Building His Body: Confront LustAnne Lang Bundyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-79130824762183942332010-01-14T00:01:15.271-05:002010-01-14T00:01:15.271-05:00Fatha Frank, thanks, as always, for stopping in an...Fatha Frank, thanks, as always, for stopping in and for commenting. I'm glad to hear "convicting" and not "condemning."<br /><br />Helen, I thought your post was adorable as well as appropriate. That's what happens with a blog carnival. We get different perspectives which enrich us all.<br /><br />Vanity, thanks for the "amen." :DAnne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-2157863472373672662010-01-13T20:58:00.502-05:002010-01-13T20:58:00.502-05:00Wow, I'm a bit late in the conversation. I wo...Wow, I'm a bit late in the conversation. I would like to agree with everyone and say this is a great post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-64771619609311952352010-01-13T10:11:53.052-05:002010-01-13T10:11:53.052-05:00Very good points. I was thinking after I read Jas...Very good points. I was thinking after I read Jason's post that the Romance Novel genre is porn for women, and that I missed the boat with my own lust entry, but you hit the same points even if you didn't mention novels. It's the dreaming of someone more charming that entrap us.Helenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18070555200892952455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-41162475916265005922010-01-13T09:40:37.980-05:002010-01-13T09:40:37.980-05:00Don't pull any punches! Great post and very co...Don't pull any punches! Great post and very convicting. Thanks, as always.Fatha Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15763574263631576373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-44056775771826734842010-01-12T23:01:19.045-05:002010-01-12T23:01:19.045-05:00Sarah, a slam-dunk? For 5'1" me (if I str...Sarah, a slam-dunk? For 5'1" me (if I stretch), that's a first! :D<br /><br />Lorrie, I don't believe the Lord's Word would exhort us to do what the Lord's Spirit would not enable.Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-87453549275387369142010-01-12T21:28:36.554-05:002010-01-12T21:28:36.554-05:00That is so right... bring every thought into capti...That is so right... bring every thought into captivity! Wonderful post...Lorriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15941727850419862559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-60402370302666546372010-01-12T21:24:24.688-05:002010-01-12T21:24:24.688-05:00Anne, this is a slam-dunk! It's right on the m...Anne, this is a slam-dunk! It's right on the mark! Amen!Sarah Salterhttp://www.sarahsalter.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-67707701475361712002010-01-12T16:17:37.084-05:002010-01-12T16:17:37.084-05:00Amy, that LOL isn't entirely original. I heard...Amy, that LOL isn't entirely original. I heard something similar years ago and loved it. I've used it countless times to remind myself of how easily dissatisfied I can be.<br /><br />Warren, I thank you for that glowing compliment. (It's a welcome affirmation that I did okay to can the wimpy post.) Something I didn't address here, which the title "False Intimacy" brings to mind, is the lust that occurs <i>within</i> marriage, to the couple's detriment.Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-9912708224713982222010-01-12T15:53:25.345-05:002010-01-12T15:53:25.345-05:00Sooooo well written. You have addressed a prevalen...Sooooo well written. You have addressed a prevalent problem in our society, and as Wendy said, you did it with such finesse.<br /><br />A good book that deal with lust and other sexual misbehaviors is "False Intimacy" by Harry Schaumburg. He makes the point that Russell did above that someone pursuing lust or other sexual outlets is really looking for intimacy which can only be met by 1) God and 2) Our spouse. Great book!<br /><br />Again, very good post. wbWarren Baldwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17956713921509659993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-53792656231181968272010-01-12T14:22:53.755-05:002010-01-12T14:22:53.755-05:00Great post. My favorite part (made me LOL): "...Great post. My favorite part (made me LOL): "Admit it ladies: if you were married to the Lord Jesus Himself you'd complain that He gives work all His attention and is on the road too much." Tie for favorite: "Wives and husbands pray for each other." Thanks for your courageous words!Amy Sorrellshttp://amysorrells.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-58055973693849560522010-01-12T12:50:55.929-05:002010-01-12T12:50:55.929-05:00Russell, the social conservative / liberal point i...Russell, the social conservative / liberal point is well taken. And if I made you think, then it's about time I paid you back. :DAnne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-22725332232583777032010-01-12T12:49:55.739-05:002010-01-12T12:49:55.739-05:00Jason, I knew this would come out more preachy tha...Jason, I knew this would come out more preachy than I like to be. I didn't see another way to do it effectively. I appreciate your comment.Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-51537010393143140752010-01-12T12:46:31.741-05:002010-01-12T12:46:31.741-05:00You are correct to point out my contradiction. If ...You are correct to point out my contradiction. If I advocate for anything at all it is the belief that our relationship with God is incomplete if we do not love each other. Jesus taught us to focus like a laser-beam on our love for each other.<br /><br />Still, the opposite can be true. Sometimes we focus on loving each other, and forget God. <br /><br />Social conservatives often remember to love God and forget to love people. Social liberals remember to love people and forget to love God. Both, are dysfunctional and miss God's intention.<br /><br />We cannot love God without loving people. Likewise, and the point I was trying to make earlier is that we cannot love people unless we love God.<br /><br />Men often seek God-love, strength, from their wives. When we learn to seek love from God first our ability to love each other, forgive each other, support each other, falls into place.<br /><br />You are REALLY making me think this morning ... :-)<br /><br />The love of Jesus to you :-)Russell Hollowayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04257247185461047076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-63626925227052543612010-01-12T11:39:30.711-05:002010-01-12T11:39:30.711-05:00Excellent points- thanks for taking it head-on, An...Excellent points- thanks for taking it head-on, Anne.jasonShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03420776820764592085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-61972534231490401202010-01-12T11:31:43.655-05:002010-01-12T11:31:43.655-05:00Gwen, the way women treat men is another whole top...Gwen, the way women treat men is another whole topic, and I hope my reminders about respect—as well as your words—provoke some reflection on it.<br /><br />Wendy, I'm not familiar with "The Bachelor," but I think I can appreciate what you're saying. Admitting any vice is the first step to confronting it. I pray the Lord will continue the conversation with you. : )<br /><br />Patty, I so appreciated this comment. I realized that I'd forgotten to mention prayer and added a postscript to the post.<br /><br />Ralene, the world does struggle. If we Christians can't get this right, how are we to minister to the world?<br /><br />Joyce, it took me a while to figure out that overdoing modesty can also put Light under a bushel. After the extreme of "flaunt it" I spent several years at the other extreme, clothed in yards of fabric. I now focus on an appearance which is attractive because it puts Light on display with as much beauty, joy and purity as possible.<br /><br />Stephanie, it is indeed a curious inversion between the sexes. If we'll seek out the Creator's design, that inversion will surely work for our good.Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-48350151025091626222010-01-12T10:59:54.857-05:002010-01-12T10:59:54.857-05:00Russell, I agree with your statement about strip-c...Russell, I agree with your statement about strip-clubs, etc. But I don't think it's only sexual lust about which this is true.<br /><br />Lust is also for power, money, other forms of physical gratification (including drugs, alcohol, food), internet contact ... where do I stop? All lust is the desire to filled a God-shaped void.<br /><br />As far as men going to their wives for strength, isn't there a balance? Wives were created not as merely a reproductive means, but as a helpmeet, a companion, a lover—body and soul.<br /><br />All strength does come from God, true enough. But haven't you often pointed out that what we need <i>from</i> the Lord often comes <i>through</i> one another? While all of us should seek strength from our Creator, don't we also obtain it through the people created in His image?Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-20325085528150658692010-01-12T10:49:25.285-05:002010-01-12T10:49:25.285-05:00Glynn, I suppose there are some people who haven&#...Glynn, I suppose there are some people who haven't had to face this, and I'm happy for them. But I suspect few of us escape the need to deal with lust.<br /><br />Bridget, I'll be curious to see how others address this. I trust that the Lord had a hand in this being today's topic. Thanks for hosting!<br /><br />T. Anne, I've likewise gone the "don't even look" route. It definitely has its place and time. I think there is also a point at which the Lord empowers us to face our temptations. They're not conquered til we can stare them down without cowering. I think it's critical to do so only when we're walking in the Spirit.<br /><br />Denise, thanks for being here in the midst of your own challenges. Stay strong in Him, my dear sister!<br /><br />Thanks, Natasa! :DAnne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-25089060813347428532010-01-12T10:32:15.171-05:002010-01-12T10:32:15.171-05:00Great thoughts. I especially liked the tie you mad...Great thoughts. I especially liked the tie you made between a man's lust for what he sees and a woman's lust for his attention (being seen?).<br /><br />Very thought-provoking.Stephanie Wetzelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09856446767908308441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-59743492672759473132010-01-12T09:34:02.820-05:002010-01-12T09:34:02.820-05:00I love the reminder that we are to 'radiate...I love the reminder that we are to 'radiate' light...excellent post...when it comes to lust men and women can equally share the blame.Joycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16727615822243830106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-15487298563445883342010-01-12T09:33:47.514-05:002010-01-12T09:33:47.514-05:00Excellent post, Anne, and so pertinent to our soci...Excellent post, Anne, and so pertinent to our society today. I so agree with what Gwen was saying as well. You all make great points that remind us all the importance in staying close with God through His Word and prayer.Ralenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07890775905785233298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-8600058551779229192010-01-12T09:23:26.907-05:002010-01-12T09:23:26.907-05:00My husband and I have been married for almost twen...My husband and I have been married for almost twenty-five years. I have made it a part of my prayer life to ask God to help me be faithful to Him first and faithful to my husband. I have asked that my husband be faithful to Him first and faithful to me. Temptation is not a respecter of persons or religious affiliation, it comes to all.<br /><br />As you mentioned there are many things that we can put into practice in our lives in order to avoid falling into this pit. The temptation is even confronted at this point ~ are we willing to put these things into practice. <br /><br />Where is the focus of our heart, of our mind? If not on God how vulnerable we are.Pattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15680733899712516437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-64024390352415576682010-01-12T08:09:00.440-05:002010-01-12T08:09:00.440-05:00Anne,
You handled this topic with such finesse. I ...Anne,<br />You handled this topic with such finesse. I think I have to mention my vice to continue my thoughts. I watch The Bachelor. My husband rolls his eyes as I make comments about all that unravels on the show. Last night on the show, a woman used what she had to “play” “the bachelor.” It made me sad for all parties b/c I saw it happening even before the big shocker was revealed. A show first. She was asked to leave late in the show for having inappropriate relations with a show staffer. I visualized her life story. Knowing I could be way off base, I saw her gaining attention her whole life b/c of her looks and what she learned to manipulate into sex appeal. My husband reminded me the whole show is messed up. <br /><br />Reading your post reminded me of our responsibility to behave and dress in such a way that honors God. I’m big on focusing what I can do (I’ll have to give account someday). <br /><br />Powerful message and I can’t believe I just admitted my vice b/c of it. ;)<br />~ WendyWendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-57073637886981274822010-01-12T07:46:36.648-05:002010-01-12T07:46:36.648-05:00Pointed words for a culture steeped in and control...Pointed words for a culture steeped in and controlled by lust after lust after lust. This is a message shouted from a metaphorical mountaintop...and well it should be.<br /><br />Men--I apologize for what is to follow, if it offends you.<br /><br />This woman sees men as wandering and vulnerable in the "post-modern" world. Our culture dares to scold them like little boys throughout their lives: do this, do that, you must not do this, you must not do that. You must not hold a door open for a woman, she may be offended. You may lust after an anonymous woman on the computer but you must not honor the wholesome beauty of a real woman by doffing a hat or offering a polite smile or waving her in ahead of you. The proverbial rug has been yanked out from under our men's feet. In my lowly, humble opinion, we have taken their best, most godly characteristics and called them worthless and laughable. My heart bleeds for men in our society. I don't hold them blameless for what goes on--don't get me wrong. But I see their pain daily, and I can't claim to understand it, but I do sympathize with it.<br /><br />Thesis over. Thanks for letting me get that out, dear Anne. God bless today.Gwen Stewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00062502118990955905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-19342868458207593702010-01-12T07:12:21.742-05:002010-01-12T07:12:21.742-05:00Someone said that every man who visits strip-clubs...Someone said that every man who visits strip-clubs, indulges in porn, etc., is really looking for God. I agree with that thought 100%.<br /><br />Another mistake men make is going to their wives for their strength and not to God. <br /><br />When people realize that they will never get the ultimate love only God can provide from their spouse, resentment falls away, forgiveness and understanding is made easier, and paradoxically relationships improve . . . the love we can offer each other flows easier. <br /><br />Thanks Anne.Russell Hollowayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04257247185461047076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-75614574562102649502010-01-12T01:57:24.058-05:002010-01-12T01:57:24.058-05:00Really good post.Really good post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com