tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post448716289536431531..comments2023-09-07T04:43:10.746-04:00Comments on Building His Body: Learning to be UnlovedAnne Lang Bundyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-383139699276735322010-05-01T23:04:29.171-04:002010-05-01T23:04:29.171-04:00David ~ Perhaps better than having the pain soften...David ~ Perhaps better than having the pain softened is simply knowing fellowship with Him in it. Rejection stings like nothing else. When I suffer with it, I remind myself of His great love to willingly take on rejection for my sake.Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-56432183346638977192010-04-30T08:15:13.366-04:002010-04-30T08:15:13.366-04:00For me too, "learning to be unloved" is ...For me too, "learning to be unloved" is a tough concept. But you are right when i think about it. The deeper I grow closer to Christ, The pain of rejection is softened by the deep love of the SaviorDavid Ruperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04765017700988820676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-26945578334711195352010-04-28T22:09:17.892-04:002010-04-28T22:09:17.892-04:00Wendy ~
This is all plenty confusing. And it seem...Wendy ~<br /><br />This is all <i>plenty</i> confusing. And it seems those boundaries are sharp only once we've fallen over them into a chasm of suffering that defies easy answers.<br /><br />As I mentioned in the post, Scripture addresses many ways of effectively confronting a "brother"—which means a fellow Christian, but can also be applicable to those with whom we are in close relationship.<br /><br />Yes, it will ALWAYS, ultimately, come back to a loving response, which is absolutely different at different times. Heavy dependence on not only the Holy Spirit, but trusted Christian counsel (whether professional or from mature friends) and Scripture helps us know what those different responses will look like.<br /><br />This all ties into forgiveness. I've got a post I'll be writing on that—a guest post on a great Christian blog as a matter of fact. I have a bit of praying to do first, to sort out just how much to tie in to forgiveness, and how much to perhaps tie into other related posts.Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-51362156045724347732010-04-28T22:09:03.163-04:002010-04-28T22:09:03.163-04:00Denise ~ God is merciful. Though there will always...Denise ~ God is merciful. Though there will always be moments of being unloved, how good that the seasons change.<br /><br />Monica ~ "Will I ever graduate?" LOL! This life has many lessons, many tests, but the "graduation" is when we move on to Heaven. Until then, we'll still be learning such HARD lessons.<br /><br />Jason ~ Your "<a href="http://blog.breakthroughalaska.com/2010/04/mad-church-disease-processing-through.html" rel="nofollow">Processing Through Pain</a>" post brings up very good points. Until we process and accept that pain is a part of the human experience, it's difficult to shift our perspective from Self to others.<br /><br />T ~ Giving it to the Lord is an important first step. Sometimes more steps are appropriate, especially in close relationships. It's a topic I've been thinking I should address. See my comment to Wendy, below.<br /><br />Russell ~ When I use the word "graduate" in learning this, it is indeed that the lesson graduates to the most difficult things we learn, not that we ever finish learning. But at some point, we only have freedom by learning this, and truly, by learning that God's love really is enough. Thank you for making the point.Anne Lang Bundyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02998809463390846323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-33967808768606602172010-04-28T21:48:10.239-04:002010-04-28T21:48:10.239-04:00Learning to be unloved ... this is such a powerful...Learning to be unloved ... this is such a powerful concept. It also means learning that God's love is enough. Thank you so much Anne.Russell Hollowayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04257247185461047076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-3511879393639752152010-04-28T19:29:46.621-04:002010-04-28T19:29:46.621-04:00I've been experiencing this severely for the p...I've been experiencing this severely for the past month. This is not an easy thing to go through. The best thing I did was give it to the Lord every day.Tanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10518718614911804428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-13936684853958794192010-04-28T12:25:51.640-04:002010-04-28T12:25:51.640-04:00Great thoughts put together beautifully. I wrote a...Great thoughts put together beautifully. I wrote about processing through pain today as it relates to hurts in the church and spiritual burnout. This a very timely message, I believe. Thanks Anne.jasonShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03420776820764592085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-6720861352623427952010-04-28T08:12:35.644-04:002010-04-28T08:12:35.644-04:00"We don’t expect that learning to love will g..."We don’t expect that learning to love will graduate to learning to be unloved while continuing to love."<br />Hard lesson. Still learning. Will I ever graduate?<br /><br />This reminds me of chapter 3 of Don Whitney's "10 Questions to Diagnose Your Spiritual Health."<br /><br />Thanks for the reminder and the challenge. This is true Christlikeness.Monica Sharmanhttp://mybigthree.highcallingblogs.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-43550217033190020222010-04-28T08:03:36.298-04:002010-04-28T08:03:36.298-04:00This can get confusing for me when boundaries come...This can get confusing for me when boundaries come into play. I have to sift through how God is leading. But ultimately it always comes back to a loving response. That just looks different at different times.<br /><br />Of course love like this is beyond what I can fathom...it's the stuff of the Spirit...the stuff of God.<br /><br />~ WendyWendy Paine Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15136235074351188350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1920734279360907280.post-86406573753857522612010-04-28T00:38:33.787-04:002010-04-28T00:38:33.787-04:00Amen, may we love through all seasons of our lifes...Amen, may we love through all seasons of our lifes.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275456448997619944noreply@blogger.com