Confront Lust

The theme for the Blog Carnival hosted today by Bridget Chumbley is lust. (More articles on "Lust" are here.)

The first gentle piece I wrote for today was rather wimpy so I tossed it. And since it was in a Twitter discussion that Mike Ellis suggested this theme and I responded with the dare for constructive confrontation of lust, I thought it only fair of me to meet that challenge head-on with these more forthright words.
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"The average girl would rather have beauty than brains because she knows the average man can see better than he can think."
~ Anonymous

Confront Lust

"I have made a covenant with my eyes;
Why then should I look upon a young woman?"
~ Job 31:1 (NKJV)

Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
~ Proverbs 31:30 (NKJV)

Because they are less discreet, men are seen as the gender with a lust problem. Before addressing female lust, shall we acknowledge that women help perpetuate male lust with the way they present themselves?

I’m not proud to admit it, but I remember what it was like a couple of decades back to measure all my attire, adornment and mannerisms by their affect on the opposite sex. Shame on me and the women who have tried to manipulate a man’s attention with subtle (or not so subtle) yet open seduction. And it is seduction, even if a woman says she doesn’t mean it that way.

Gentlemen, surely you are not so weak and stupid that you cannot see such female behavior for the snare it is. If you don’t want to be a woman’s prey, I suggest you keep your attention on her from the neck up, and keep your contact with her clean. I know this can be a challenge, because my own eyes have difficulty from straying to attention grabbers on women—and hardly because I'm attracted to it. But if a painfully attractive, bronzed and bare-chested construction worker can stand three feet from me while I keep my eyes above his neck, keep my hormones in check, and keep my attention on the roof work being discussed, then I know it’s possible for you to do likewise with women.

Ladies, do you reduce yourselves to a pretty piece of hairdo and flesh? If you do get a man to drool over the outward, how difficult will it be to re-divert his attention to the inward? Women were created not as advertisements, but to radiate beauty—the beauty of the Lord's light.

Furthermore, ladies, can we acknowledge that our lust may be as pervasive as men's? If we don't struggle with keeping our eyes above a man's neck, it's because that's where our primary lust lies. Regardless of any interest in his body, we're more interested in his attention.

What do little girls dream of? The Prince Charming who will marry the maiden and shower her with his love so that they live happily ever after. But either Prince Charming fails to marry us, and leaves us with broken hearts; or, he marries us, we discover that Prince Charming has other things on his mind besides us, and we decide he's not so perfect.

So we're inclined to lust after potential Prince Charmings: the co-worker who's such a gentleman; the man at church who treats his wife in a manner we wish a man might treat us; the kind and handsome sir who frequently crosses our path too briefly. The fact that female lust is more emotional than physical doesn't mean it isn't lust, and doesn't make it less dangerous to either present or future marriage.

We women forget that no man is perfect, and no man can meet all of our emotional needs. Admit it ladies: if you were married to the Lord Jesus Himself you'd complain that He gives work all His attention and is on the road too much.

If you're a single woman, be careful about where you let your heart wander. You'll miss out on blessings of what is if you're too caught up dreaming of what might be.

If you're a married woman and have serious marital issues, address them respectfully. But remember that you're not perfect, and no matter how your husband might change he still wouldn't be perfect. Resolve not to day dream about other men, make your marriage the very best it can be, and give your husband the respect, attention and passion that belong to him, both in the bedroom and elsewhere.

Men, if you feel your wife fails to give you all this, do you fantasize or lust over women who might? If your wife isn't generous enough with physical affection, do you feel you're being denied your marital rights? Do you deny her the affection and attention which warm her—which constitute her marital rights? The Bible says, "Husbands, love your wives." Do you love your wife and put her needs above your own, as Paul instructs? Or do you turn the attention that belongs to her elsewhere? (Just some suggested thoughts from a woman's point of view.)

There's plenty more I might say. I'll simply leave men and women alike with a recommendation for "bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." Trying to push away temptation doesn't tend to be effective, because the resulting void creates a vacuum into which the temptation returns.

More effective is filling your mind and heart with something more valuable than the object of temptation.

I say then: Walk in the Spirit,
and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.
~ Galatians 5:16 (NKJV)

A postscript: Wives, husbands, remember to pray for each other. Even if you're single, you can pray now for the man or woman the Lord might one day make your spouse.

Father in Heaven, please use Your Holy Spirit to speak to each of us how You'd fill us with something better than whatever we might lust after. Please increase our desire for such blessing. Please give us all the needed strength to direct our hearts and minds toward You.

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FEELINGS PART II

"Happiness is a moral obligation."

~ Dennis Prager

I venture into dangerous territory today. I'll mention a topic so awful it's spelled.

P-M-S.

Right off the bat I offer disclaimer: I do not suffer from PMS or its symptoms. I ask the women who do, please, don't hate me for having undeservedly received such an enormous blessing.

I do, however, know what PMS feels like. During my third pregnancy, I experienced a strange hormonal imbalance. It felt like someone had handed me a license which conferred upon me certain rights, foremost the right to be a ... witch.

It was awful. I knew my feelings of malice toward everyone and everything were unfounded. But I didn't care. Or so I thought.

I discovered that I hated the unfamiliarity and utter illogic of those feelings. I loved the two small children with whom I spent my days, and did not wish to distress them. Somewhere deep within me I found the ability to fight those irrational feelings, for the sake of my loved ones and my sanity.

But if you bite and devour one another,
beware lest you be consumed by one another!
I say then: Walk in the Spirit,
and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.
~ Galatians 5:15-16 (NKJV)

Though I may not suffer PMS (or pregnancy), I am given to intense feelings. "Intense" is a what people who love me call it. (How are they able?) My inclination is to freely express my feelings—sometimes a good thing, sometimes not. When feeling affection, I'm inclined to smother. When sad, abundant tears stand ready. When happy, I can be obnoxious (so I aim for just cheerful). When angry, somebody may need to leave the premises.

Those are my natural inclinations. But the Lord resides within me and empowers another option: Walk in the Spirit. Happy, sad, angry, and affectionate aren't wrong emotions. But demonstrating them however I feel like it can be wrong—as I've well learned. And not all feelings justify expression. "The better part of valor is discretion." (Shakespeare)

Happiness is indeed a moral obligation. As Dennis Prager says, "Happiness—or at least acting happy, or at the very least not inflicting one's unhappiness on others—is no less important in making the world better than any other human trait." He cites the effects of unhappy parents, spouses, children, co-workers on people with whom they have long-standing or influential relationships.

Bad moods and unhappiness can indeed be an emotional assault which harms others.

As mentioned in "Feelings Part I," Jesus says lust is adultery in the heart. He also described unjust anger as a violation of "Do not murder." Murder harms life. So does anger. And so may other feelings when not given their proper expression.

Jesus gives us life. If He lives in us, He desires to give life to others through us.

We do so by being empowered to walk according to His Spirit, and not according to fleeting feelings.

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Friday Freelance: FECKLESS

feck·less \ˈfek-ləs\ adj 1: WEAK, INEFFECTIVE

My four-year old drools in his sleep.

Some mornings, there's no damp pillow or cheek. Yet moms know. I'll cuddle him to wake up and catch a whiff of the telltale smell on his sweet face—and I hardly intend to quit cuddling to wash. Later, an older sister may hold him and say, "Daniel smells funny." At some point, he will get a bath to take care of all the funny smells which cling to four-year olds.

He's learned self-control where nighttime bladder issues are concerned. But when it comes to keeping his mouth closed during sleep, I can't help but like the word feckless.

"There is nothing covered that will not be revealed, nor hidden that
will not be known." (Luke 12:2 NKJV)

I recently read a compelling line from The Sacred Romance by John Eldredge: "Unsettled, we turn and walk quickly away, like a woman who feels more than she wants to when her eyes meet those of a man not her husband."

Yikes.

I'd only noticed men who give women a slightly too appreciative glance before looking away. Are the secrets hidden in a woman's heart just as easily laid bare?

Men have the reputation for lust. I don't see their lust for sex much different from women's lust for romance, whether in frequency of thought or in the danger for compromise.

I've heard, "Feelings aren't right or wrong—they're just feelings." This lie from the pit of hell is the devil's tool to convince us that lust, wrath, pride, and an entire host of other emotions are justified. We think them our own secrets, which hurt no one. We see our hearts somewhat like our cars. We pass through the midst of hundreds of other cars but think of our space as private—while it's surrounded by glass.

Like the invisible dried spittle on my son's cheek, we unwittingly reveal our hearts and the evil emotions in them. We may dwell on such emotions and feed them, and eventually act upon them. If forced to confront those emotions, we justify them as no more than human.

The Creator indeed allows us anger, which can motivate us to defeat unrighteousness as it did David against Goliath. The Lord allows us enough pride to care about how we're perceived, so we'll work toward displaying the love, joy and peace He puts inside of us. God gives us sexual desire to unite ourselves with our spouses—body and soul—and to reveal more clearly divine union with us which is His desire.

Satan and flesh would use these good emotions for evil.

For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do,
that I practice. Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who
do it, but sin that dwells in me... O wretched man that I am!
Who will deliver me from this body of death? I thank God—
through Jesus Christ our Lord! (Romans 7:19-20,24-25 NKJV)

It's said sinful emotions are like birds: you can't prevent them from flying overhead, but you can keep them from building a nest in your hair.

We must indeed battle sinful emotions every day that we live on this side of heaven. We must remain aware of the dire consequences which follow if we fail to fight.

And we must remember to draw near to our loving Father, whose will is to continually wash us of sin's odor even as He looks affectionately upon our humanity which renders us feckless.

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Being Built Up

So the church throughout all Judea and Galilee and Samaria had peace and was being built up. And walking in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit, it multiplied.
~ Acts 9:31 (ESV)

By the fear of the LORD one turns away from evil.
~ Proverbs 16:6 (ESV)

Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh.
~ Galatians 5:16-17 (NKJV)

A goal of every church is being built up in both strength and numbers. The early church was successful with "walking in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit." Could something so simple be more effectively employed in 2009?

To walk in the fear of the Lord is to appreciate God's zeal for holiness and man's sin-filledness, and know that it will require me to either lay myself bare before Him so He may purge my sin, or wait for a loving Father's good but possibly-painful discipline.

To walk in the comfort of the Holy Spirit is to deny the pride, selfishness and lust of the flesh. Flesh is my natural inclinations (dignity, survival, hunger) turned gratuitously inward rather than submitted to the Creator's use to strengthen me, edify others, and exalt my God.

Simple doesn't mean easy. Being built up as individuals and as churches requires far more than once a week attendance of a feel-good worship service.

Heavenly Father, You offer our souls so much more than the satisfaction of a thriving church congregation. You make us like You, in love and holiness. Let our being built up be because we are filled with Your Spirit, following close behind You, walking in fear and fellowship.

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Friday Freelance: FINAL COST, PART I

Proverbs 22:7 says the borrower is servant to the lender. In Bible times, a man unable to meet his debts sold himself (or a family member) as slave to repay. Although he was not made a slave on the day he borrowed, the proverb's author rightly asserted a borrower's status as servant from day one.

We no longer take debt so seriously. Who cares about the final cost? Credit cards finance everything from vacations costing thousands to lunch at McDonald's. "Buy now and do not pay until 2011." Or, "Just $29.99 per month!* *On charge card. APR 27.3%, $120 annual fee, $30 late fee."

Sufficient credit pushes aside restraint. Insufficient income prompts borrow more rather than spend less. When credit runs out and running from creditors becomes unpleasant, bankruptcy provides an often employed escape from debt far less painful than slavery and debtor's prison.

Government leads the way on borrowing. Taxpayers know but seem unconcerned about footing the bill for horrifically huge bailout packages. As with individual debt—and especially with panic-induced debt—who cares about the final cost? Why worry now about how to repay? The present goal is avoid a depression, regardless of the price tag.

In the meantime, where does the money come from? Exactly who buys all those T-bills backed by the U.S. government? Even if nervous stock market investors switch to T-bills, do we surmise there are enough U.S. dollars to finance the billions being handed out?

Sighs of relief for bailout dollars cover pitches of "America for sale" on the global market. A plummeting dollar means rock-bottom prices for foreign investors. Shares of the good old USA are as available as corporate shares sold on the stock market.

But unlike stock market issues, the U.S. isn't using funds for capital investments which will pay dividends. We're simply doing at the highest level what we've been doing for years at the individual level: borrowing money to refinance the debt of indulgent choices so we can again breathe easy, while bankruptcy lurks at the door.

Foreign investors may not be as willing to grant the clemency allowed by bankruptcy. On a not too distant date in the future, they may actually choose to exercise ownership rights.

How? Maybe our debt will be allowed to ride in exchange for our support on a U.N. resolution. Painful economic sanctions might lie in the future. Eventually, we could face compromise of national sovereignty.

All this is purely hypothetical. More debt could work. Perhaps the borrower need not be servant to the lender.

Right?

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Bring It On

Therefore have I set my face like flint ...
He who vindicates me is near.
Who then will bring charges against me?
Let us face each other!
Who is my accuser?
Let him confront me!
It is the Sovereign LORD who helps me.
Who is he that will condemn me?
Isaiah 50:7-9 (NIV)

A Psalm of David ...
O men, how long shall my honor be turned into shame? ...
The LORD hears when I call to him.
Be angry, and do not sin;
ponder in your own hearts on your beds, and be silent. Selah
Psalms 4:2-4 (ESV)

Anger itself is not a sinful emotion. God gets angry. Sin comes in the reason for our anger and the way we express our anger.

David is an example of a good excuse for anger. He yet spent many years of his life as an innocent fugitive, fleeing from unrighteous men rather than striking against them. Yet he exhorted, "Be angry, and do not sin." Like Isaiah, his confidence was that "He who vindicates me is near."

Sure, I can have a face like a flint—if I'm struck just so, the sparks fly. WRONG application! Oh for the ability to set one's face like a flint as Isaiah, unmoved in the face of the worst provocation! Oh for the ability to say, "Bring it on," because I am so strong in the Spirit that I will respond correctly.

Sovereign Lord, Your anger is as holy as You are. The wrath of man is so ugly and sinful, completely at odds with Your Spirit's work in us. Please help us yield to Your Spirit and respond to situations as Jesus would. Let anger motivate us without provoking us, because we are like Him.

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Food and Clothing

And He said to them, "Whose image and inscription is this?" They said to Him, "Caesar's." And Jesus answered and said to them, "Render to Caesar the things that are Caesar's, and to God the things that are God's." And they marveled at Him. (Mark 12:16-17 NKJV)

And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content. But those who desire to be rich fall into temptation and a snare, and into many foolish and harmful lusts which drown men in destruction and perdition. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil, for which some have strayed from the faith in their greediness, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. (1 Timothy 6:8-10 NKJV)

Give me neither poverty nor riches—
Feed me with the food allotted to me;
Lest I be full and deny You,
And say, "Who is the LORD?"
Or lest I be poor and steal,
And profane the name of my God.
(Proverbs 30:8-9 NKJV)

Few things cause us more stress than money, whether we possess it in abundance or poverty. Money of itself is not evil, nor is it an ends, but merely a means—a means to obtain necessities of food and clothing, a means to foolish and harmful lusts.

Are we wise enough to ask for neither poverty nor riches? The phenomenally successful Christian singer Rich Mullins (1955-1997) chose to receive only $24,000 a year from his accountant. He died as he lived, while driving his own jeep on the way to perform a benefit concert.

"Wealth consists not in the abundance of our possessions, but in the fewness of our wants." (Author unknown, and forgive me for repeating it.) Whatever our economic condition through recession, we can be content with adequate food and clothing. Everything more is gravy.

Lord, You have blessed us abundantly, perhaps too much so if our wealth distracts us from You. It is difficult to see so many people in financial distress right now. Please give us words and deeds of compassion even as we search out the simpler lifestyle to which You call us.

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Sowing and Reaping

They have prepared a net for my steps;
My soul is bowed down;
They have dug a pit before me;
Into the midst of it they themselves have fallen.
(Psalms 57:6 NKJV)

Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life. (Galatians 6:7-8 NKJV)

"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses....
Whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets." (Matthew 6:14-15; 7:12 NKJV)

If a child is offered a reward for desirable behavior, is it bribery or motivation? It would be nice if children were simply inclined to do the right thing. But like adults, their natural inclination is to do as pleases themselves rather than as they should.

God has implemented certain principles in His universe. Gravity. Death. What goes around comes around. However unbiblical that cliche sounds, it is supported by Scripture. If you sow seeds of selfishness you can't expect to reap blessing.

We want to be motivated by goodness and the desire to do right. Sometimes we are. If we are not, we would do well to remember not only should we do unto others as we want done to ourselves, but whatever we do to others is likely to come back to us, in one form or another.

Father in Heaven, You are good. Everything that comes from You is good. Please enable us to be more like You—to be better than we want to be. When we struggle to be selfless, please remind us of blessings found in sacrifice that cannot be had in immediate gratification.

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Affliction

Therefore [the Egyptians] set taskmasters over [the children of Israel] to afflict them with their burdens... But the more they afflicted them, the more they multiplied and grew. (Exodus 1:11-12 NKJV)

Now those who were scattered after the persecution that arose over Stephen traveled as far as Phoenicia, Cyprus, and Antioch, preaching the word ... And the hand of the Lord was with them, and a great number believed and turned to the Lord. (Acts 11:19-21 NKJV)

It is good for me that I have been afflicted,
That I may learn Your statutes...
I know, O LORD, that Your judgments are right,
And that in faithfulness You have afflicted me...
Unless Your law had been my delight,
I would then have perished in my affliction.
(Psalm 119:71,75,92 NKJV)

Couch potatoes feeding on chips do not become strong, and if they grow it is to their detriment. Healthy growth and strength are the result of disciplined exercise and nutrition.

Affliction is the Lord's discipline and exercise to make us strong. Discipline is not bad. It can be synonymous with either "punishment" or "instruction," and Webster also defines it as "training that corrects, molds, or perfects." DISCIPLes in training are made strong through the discipline of affliction, and the nutrition of God's Word to sustain them.

True peace lies in strength not gained while at rest. And good rest will surely follow a good workout and a healthy meal.

Father in heaven, You afflict in faithfulness and love. It is indeed good that I have been afflicted, and I thank You for it. Please let me not shrink at Your good discipline. Please feed me with Your Word, help me respond to Your instruction, and make me strong as Your disciple to better serve You whom I love.

Copyright 2008, Anne Lang Bundy

Liberty’s Responsibility

Everything is allowable to me, but not everything is profitable. Everything is allowable to me, but to nothing will I become a slave.
(1 Corinthians 6:12 WNT)

"What do you think, Simon? From whom do the kings of the earth take customs or taxes, from their sons or from strangers? ... The sons are free. Nevertheless, lest we offend them, go ... you will find a piece of money; take that and give it to them for Me and you."
(Matthew 17:25,27 NKJV)

"Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed."
(John 8:36 NKJV)

Being a child of the King means freedom—and responsibility. Life as a slave of law is seemingly easier, when every move is governed by the commandment. Once the commandment is met, one can see obligation as fulfilled and expend no further effort.

Life as royalty requires far more. Duty demands meeting the very spirit of the law. We must not offend. We are never "off the clock." We are required to think about our actions—does this profit? Or will it make me its slave?

Lord Jesus our Savior, thank You for the cross. Thank You for our liberty. Thank You for Your Spirit, to guide us in Your perfect way, through which our Father means to abundantly bless us.

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What Price Feasting?

But Jacob said, "Sell me your birthright as of this day." And Esau said, "Look, I am about to die; so what is this birthright to me?" ...
And Jacob gave Esau bread and stew of lentils; then he ate and drank, arose, and went his way. Thus Esau despised his birthright.
(Genesis 25:31-32,34 NKJV)

Every man should eat and drink and enjoy the good of all his labor—
it is the gift of God. (Ecclesiastes 3:13 NKJV)

The drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty.
(Proverbs 23:21 NKJV)

If there is a time for everything, surely there is a time for feasting
(like July 4th), and a time for fasting. When does drinking become drunkenness? When does feasting become gluttony? When the wine and food become the master which controls us and compels us to pay an unworthy price for the sake of immediate gratification.

The Christian’s body is the temple of God’s Spirit. It is a place of rejoicing, and a place of sacrifice. To destroy its life violates, "You shall not murder."

Lord, thank You for making us a place for Your glorious presence to live, act, and speak—lights who reflect Jesus, The Light of the World. Please perfect and polish us, so we may shine brightly.

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Led by the Spirit

"Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak." (Matthew 26:41 NKJV)

I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. (Galatians 5:16-18 NKJV)

My spirit wishes to please my Lord. Yet I do not do as I wish, too often giving in to the natural inclinations of my flesh and being disappointed with myself. The last component of my spiritual armor is to be watchful in prayer (Ephesians 6:18), as Jesus instructed his disciples. When I am in continual communication with the Spirit, alert to His perspective, and yielded to His leading, I am far less likely to stumble.

Father, You are good to give us all we need for our journey and the battles we face along the way. Your Son says Your Spirit is given for the asking. Please fill us with Your Spirit. Lead us not into temptation, but through it, around it, beyond it—refine us by it.

A Wildflower and the Rock

And do this, knowing the time, that now it is high time to awake out of sleep; for now our salvation is nearer than when we first believed. . . put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts. (Romans 13:11,14 NKJV)

Time grows short. My life is but a fading wildflower on the earth. Yet even a wildflower can make its permanent mark when it becomes a fossil preserved in rock. The flower is no longer seen, but it makes beautiful the rock upon which it pressed itself. My Rock is the Lord Jesus Christ, and there is no time to linger in sleep and comforts of the flesh when He is not yet fully manifest in the lives of those around me. Such comforts should simply give me the physical strength to love whatever people perchance across my path, and to glorify my God.

Lord Jesus, please let me use all I have and am to glorify You as pleases You.

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